He Must Really Love Her (Written the day after the wedding)

Saturday, December 16th, 2006

He Must Really Love Her

He must really love her………
A phrase that keeps going through my mind
As I watch my son, dressed in a Japanese men’s kimono for all to see,
A nervous grin glued to his face, a smile that only periodically reaches to his eyes.

He must really love her………
As I watch him watch her enter the room, exquisitely, exotically beautiful in a
White wedding dress complete with veil and long flowing train;
Clearly he has eyes only for her.

He must really love her…
As I hear him recite the vows he has written, describing his long-time companion,
now his wife, as his best friend,
someone it seems he has always known and will always love and cherish.

He must really love her….
As the program goes on and he does all the right things at the right times,
Posing for endless pictures, bowing and thanking and being gracious,
his beautiful wife by his side.

He must really love her…
As speeches are given, toasts and congratulations, ending with some words from my son,

in Japanese, the language of his adopted country;
A tribute to his Japanese family and to their kindness, acceptance, and love.

Then I look again, with new eyes at the two, now a couple and at the bride,
now clad in a striking green kimono,
Proud and stately and loving beside her husband, my son
And I think of their long history together and trips back and forth across an ocean;

the melding not only of two personalities, but of two cultures and now I know..
She must really love him too.
By UltraMom at 09:06 AM Link to this post here!
6 comment s


  • on December 16th, 2006 12:52 PM UltraBob said:

    Man, stop it with the making me cry stuff would you?!?  No actually, don’t.  That really touched me Mom, thanks for writing it.  It was a real joy to watch you and UltraGirl and Heather and UltraGirl get to know each other better.  My three favorite women in the world.

  • on December 18th, 2006 09:24 AM Kristen said:

    That’s lovely sentiment and I like the way you incorporated so many details of the day into the poem.

  • on December 18th, 2006 03:34 PM UltraUncleDan said:

    UltraUncleDan??? Hey, why not. It’s very rare that I even come to his website, but I was thinking of you guys and said… (SEE LINE 1, SENTENCE 2)

    My only sojourn to Japan was a three hour stint coming and going to Taipei, Taiwan on a training venue for my former company 16 years ago.  Maybe if it happens again, I might even venture outside of the airport terminal. It could happen......  Congrats Bob, and Tomoko, and welcome home to my sister and her female kin.  Don’t worry Heather, I know you like the no-tipping thing in Japan, so next time I come to Pocatello, I’ll make sure I don’t leave you anything. I wouldn’t want to upset you....

  • on December 20th, 2006 12:16 AM UltraHeather said:

    Don’t worry UltraUncleDan, I do like the no tipping thing in Japan.  In the United States however, I only get upset when I don’t get a BIG tip:)

  • on December 23rd, 2006 05:00 AM Jessica said:

    I had alot of catching up to do on reading your site. It was alot of fun visiting with you guys. I didn’t get cold more than a couple of times. I really liked your wedding speech. It was really sweet.

  • on December 24th, 2006 02:19 PM Ultra Aunt Debi said:

    That was beautiful.  Wow, Ultra Uncle Dan posted…